Glossophobia

What is glossophobia? It’s the fear of public speaking and something I hate the most.  No matter how hard I avoid speaking , the environment creates a platform that requires everyone to talk . In school, I was the student that would not make eye contact with the teacher. I figured if we made eye contact there was a higher chance of them calling my name. I never liked introducing myself  or presenting to a crowd of people. I’m not sure how I dread speaking in front of groups of people, but I was a cheerleader and jazz/tap dancer, go figure.. Maybe it was the fact I felt comfortable performing as a group rather than by myself. Either way, as I continue to grow I notice there is no escape for public speaking. So instead of hiding it’s time to face the music,awkward stares, and everything else public speaking may bring.

Practice, practice, practice. I remembered practicing my capstone presentation with my teacher after her office hours and it was worth every minute! I was scared because I was not only presenting to my colleagues but to teachers and I had no idea what they were going to ask. My teacher helped me as far as my posture, making eye contact, and not being wordy in my power point. The time spent in practicing  those minor details helped me in a major way the next day when I presented my research.
Engage with the audience. Remember when I said I felt comfortable performing as a group rather than by myself? Speaking in front of people is like a big performance so it’s important to get everyone involved to avoid feeling awkward. I like asking questions to not only take the spotlight off myself but it’s a way get everyone engaged.
Picture everyone_____. Ok I’m not sure about this one lol. People would say if I pictured everyone in the room in underwear or something I would feel at ease. Actually I think it would make me look silly laughing in front of everyone like I’m on medication, no thanks. I heard this works but honestly I just like to get through the speaking so I can hurry and sit down.
Don’t look at everyone in the face. I look for that one person I’m comfortable with and pretend they are the only ones in the room. Focusing on one person vs the entire room help me control how fast to talk and keep my nerves in check. When I was a little girl I had to recite my Christmas speech and I would not look at anyone in the face! Instead I randomly stared at the big church hats, people teeth, and the big clock that hung in the back of the church LOL.
I thought my fear of public speaking would have disappeared as I got older, instead it got smaller which is progress! If you’re like me I’m here to say you’re doing great!  Always remember there’s a platform waiting to hear your voice to gain insight, stay encouraged, and be inspired.
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For The Selective Palate

 

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I’m not sure what brought me to this path of being a picky eater. I could say money was a factor or the fact my mom worked long hours. Truth was, the last thing on her mind was to come home to cook a Lebanese Thanksgiving meal. Even if she did cook like that, I already made my mind up that if it’s not the texture then it’s the presentation of food that will make me cringe. Also, the fact I had people that supported my picky outlook on food rather than push me to try new things.  Why change when you already know what’s best for you, right? Well this all started to change once I got married. For my husband’s birthdays he likes to try new dishes and for some reason I started having the same craving to try new things as well. Rocky start but eventually I became open to new possibilities.

This continued in the workplace as well. My business trip to New York interrupted my comfort level greatly especially with food. We went to restaurants I would probably pass by in order to get some pizza and was served beverages that reminded me I was not in the south.  I did have a chance to visit a French restaurant and for the first time I tried macaroons!  Who would have guessed this picky person would one day open up to opportunities and try something better than the ‘norm’?

The way I am with food is sometimes translated in my relationship with God. I’m very persistent (okay, stubborn at times) and I like to have things done a certain way because that’s what I’m used to. However, I’m also learning that with God his way is better and part of understanding his way requires faith. It’s not easy. It’s like having a plate of some of the nastiest vegetables and your parents saying ,”Eat it, it’s good for you”.  Eventually , your taste changes and you become sensitive to what you eat and open to new dishes. Once you ( including me ) realize God’s hand in your life , you’ll become sensitive and willing to submit to his path.  So for the selective palate, I dare you to go out and explore not only food but God’s will for your life 🙂image1 (2)

emBrace Your journey 

Have you ever imagined accomplishing a goal but because of your age you were ‘too late’? It’s so easy to place an expiration date on something that shows no sign of being ruined soon.

I’m in my late 20’s and I just got braces.. for the second time! Looking back from my first experience, there was a lot of challenges I faced and one was the result of my mom not being able to finish my treatment plan. Little did I know, the setbacks I experienced inspired my appreciation for dentistry. If I didn’t see my mom struggle financially I wonder if my desire to serve in dentistry would be the same? Or If I didn’t have a peg lateral could I relate to others when it comes to self esteem?

It’s like what you’re going through is not just for you but it’s to help others. So it’s very important to embrace your journey by completing it. I knew in order to get the results I wanted from my smile I needed to finish what I started , which was getting braces. So maybe it’s not braces or academics, maybe it’s a business idea and you’ve been hesitating for a while. I’m here to encourage us both by saying keep pushing! Don’t single yourself out because of small circumstances. Someone is waiting be inspired from your story all you have to do is embrace your journey 🙂

 

Ephesians 6:7

Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the lord, not people- Ephes.6:7

Before I start with my daily tasks at work I have to pray for strength, wisdom, and the right attitude to serve. I don’t know about you but this is a hard scripture to meditate on sometimes. To serve wholeheartedly, what does that mean? Well to serve is to perform duties for another individual and wholeheartedly is to be completely sincere, enthusiastic. So just that part alone I should be enthusiastic to help others..right.

unnamed My very first job was at Subway and ‘serving wholeheartedly’ was the last thing on my mind. Sure I always had a smile on my face but I did not enjoy the details of sandwich making. I’ve matured in my ways of thinking though I recognize I am still learning how to serve wholeheartedly through my job experiences. As the scripture continues it not only say serve wholeheartedly but as if you’re serving the lord, not people. Random but I seriously wonder if that’s Chick-Fil-A’s mission statement.images (1) They are known to give with a cheerful attitude in spite of how they really feel or how customers may respond. I wonder when I had some of the roughest days at work would the result be any different if I imagined serving God instead. If I could imagine making God a sub would he be satisfied with how I made it? Or as a histo-tech, would God be satisfied in the way I dissected his tissue sample in a hurry? As a chemist, am I really serving wholeheartedly? Sometimes I like to compare my current moment to my volunteering moments. Serving becomes my heart when it comes to dental clinics. I can have a few hours of sleep and feel energized the following day to serve.

image1  Serve wholeheartedly, as if you are serving the lord, not people is a constant reminder for me as it may be for you. Your passion can be in one area but the needs of people can be found in all areas of life. Sure that one person gets on your nerves or the work is not the creme de la creme, join the club. The lord wants us to serve enthusiastically so he can reward us with something much bigger! So give your complete best with a smile and ask, “How can I serve you today?”

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The Waiting Room

You’ve arrived on time for your checkup appointment and pretty excited because you know the time you sit down you’re going to be called. You already gave the receptionist the necessary paperwork and you’re ready. Hmm.. they will call me soon, you think to yourself, so to help pass the time you start to notice your environment. The waiting room is filled with people that need to be seen as well.

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One by one, everyone is being called to the back and it’s starting to get frustrating because there were people that did not have to wait as long. Your frustration builds to anxiety and now you’re going up to the front desk asking questions. They reassure you that the doctor will see you soon, he’s preparing some things for you; however, your patience grows thin. Your phone goes off from people sending messages asking,”why are you still waiting ?” “When are you going to move forward?”

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You don’t respond because they wouldn’t understand. You did everything you were supposed to, now it’s your job to wait and be called. Finally realizing your pacing back and forth is not changing the outcome, your attitude changes while you wait. You take advantage of the wait by embracing small opportunities like reading the magazines or checking your email on your phone. Time goes by but you’re gaining wisdom and understanding. You stopped focusing on the messages, the people that were seen by the doctor before you, at that moment the door flung open and you knew the wait was over.

door-240x300 How many of us had moments like this? We ‘wait’  anxiously for God’s big call while overlooking small opportunities to grow. I know this is a challenge for me but as a father, God, constantly reassures he will not forget about me. It may seem like everyone is moving forward before me but God knows I did everything I was supposed to and now it’s my job to wait for the door to open.  So stay encourage and know that soon our wait will be over 🙂

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Where’s your outlet?

plugIn general ,the electrical outlet is used to connect an electrical device to an electricity supply. Just about everything we use requires an outlet : cellphones , computers, TV, etc., etc. Your cellphone is charged and ready to be used for a couple of hours then it has to let you know it needs energy. The same is applied in our everyday lives. Energy is drained constantly from work, relationships , or  just going through the day in general  and that’s when we ask , ” Where’s my outlet?”

Growing up I loved being to myself ( still do !) , I had friends but it was something about my ‘me time’ . I had a lot of moments where I didn’t feel pretty enough and got picked on . Besides crying to my mom and friends I needed a place to vent that’s how my outlet to write started. I used my imagination a lot and it introduced me to poetry. As I wrote my poems helped me to clear my emotions and become creative. I guess it even compliments to my blog today :-).  My next outlet I love to have is music. Music for me takes me to another place and I use it a lot at work lol ! Pandora , my best friend, helps me get into a productive mood and it seems to help me move faster depending on the song. Another outlet that gets me into a better mood , Instagram. I follow a bunch of Ig’s comedians and I just watch their short clips when I feel like laughing . Playing tennis is my favorite outlet after a long week of work . After a few hits back and forth it not only clears your mind but it’s a fun way of working out ! Last but not least , the outlet I use everyday is spending time with God. I have to speak to him before I start work and later during the day . He gives so much of himself I feel charged and ready for whatever the day is bringing. Besides speaking to him , I like to study scriptures and read devotionals . While I feel I may be giving 40% , like a cell phone battery, he in turns gives so much more .

So your outlet(s) can be a number of things , just make sure you stay connected to your source of energy!

What’s your S.T.O.R.Y?

Did you grow up thinking you would move straight into your purpose but instead you’re feeling bound to one area in your life? Well I’m here to say you’re not by yourself . I’ve joined this adventure where I’m learning more about myself as well as gain better understanding of what God wants me to do.  After graduating from college I noticed a trend with the jobs I accepted. The agenda of the job had similarities even the small detail of where I sat was all too familiar. In my current position my coworkers sit in the office part of lab while my cubicle is located in the actual lab surrounded by raw materials ( the ingredients listed on the back of your lotion, body wash, etc). When I first noticed this I said to myself, ” what a coincidence !” but is it a coincidence ? or is it the way you view the situation?

Without a doubt my passion is in dentistry so why am I getting skin care jobs? Could it be the best route to build my character ? Am I doing more in dentistry than I had imagined? Could the reason why I’m seated around raw materials be to spark creativity and curiosity? Since the past two months of discovering myself , I just started reading this awesome book called , Cure for The Common Life, by Max Lucado. It’s all about finding your purpose and even though I’m not finished reading I highly recommend! One of the things he mentioned that I wanted to share is finding your S.T.O.R.Y, here’s what I mean:

Strengths: What are your knacks? What do you do naturally  where it’s hard for others?

Topic: Once you know your verb look for nouns. What objects do I like working with? Animals? people? This can be as abstract as an idea or concrete as fruit.

Optimal Conditions: What are the factors that trigger your motivation? Love to respond to a need? Motivated by problems? or predictable routine? clear defined structure or open ended possibilities?

Relationships: Think over your moments of success. How did you relate to people? working as a team or functioned better alone?

Yes: what makes you say you were made to do this?

It may take a few seconds to figure out your purpose while it takes others (including myself) a little while longer and that’s ok! Reflecting from your past up to your present takes time . No matter where you are currently know its not your resting place. You were created to do more than just one thing! We already have the tools we just have to perfect our skills before using them. Stay encouraged 🙂

Breaking up is hard work

“We would like to bring you on board with our company! Will you accept our offer?”  My moment had finally come ! 100 applications & 20 interviews later.. resulted in a job offer ! I was excited and thankful for God’s blessing ,oh how I waited for this transition , but somehow I needed time to reflect.

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I remembered when God promised to take me from my night job to place me elsewhere . The following day as I took my 15 min break I saw a beautiful rainbow that was confirmation for me. I was excited and wrote my 2 week notice … a YEAR ahead of time! I saved it to my computer , waiting on my golden willy wonka ticket for better opportunity. So, the moment had presented itself and I’m in awe. No longer having to get off work wee hours of the morning, taking 15 min breaks to refresh my mind from the workload by playing Lumosity on my phone, and being under strict management.  I was accustomed to everything and as much as I wasn’t fond of my love-hate relationship with the lab  I started feeling like I was going to miss the routine of things.

I learned a lot during those 4 years (eekk!) especially about God’s promise. He protected me from not getting fired , provided financially , and kept his promise . I was nervous about God answering my prayers but I realized in order to fulfill the vision he has for me I needed to press forward. Maybe its not a job you’re seeking but you’re praying and asking for help. God hears your every detail and when he answers he won’t leave anything out because he’s that awesome. It’s true you may not get your prayer answered the next day but as you mature you’ll notice how God is leading you to something beyond your imagination. I’m starting to learn God is in control and I need to obtain more of his character before I become a dentist. A part of being more like him requires breaking up with something even if its hard work.

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100 applications & 20 interviews later..

It’s true. It’s getting close to a year of me applying to jobs. I’ve applied to over 100 + job applications and had about 20 interviews! Who does that? Well, this girl. Don’t be like this girl!

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I knew after receiving my DAT scores and the talks I had with dental schools I wasn’t free from my job. I couldn’t quit because my bills and future always reminded me of the relationship we shared. I couldn’t go back to school to retake classes , at least not yet , so I became focused on getting a job with higher pay and flexible for school.

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I applied for everything I thought I would qualify for! I knew some of the best positions were posted early in the morning and I knew companies usually request for  interviews Tuesday-Thursday. I had all kinds of interviews. I started realizing rather quickly I didn’t put much thought in applying . For example, I had an interview to basically test water including sewage ..SEWAGE!! yuck ! Another interview I had was for a lab. The lady explained her role and how they used animals to test medical devices , like pace makers. As she went on she then mentioned how they don’t go on lunch sometimes depending on the case

 

This is where this awesome book called 40 Days to the work you love , by Dan Miller changed my thoughts as well as my actions.

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Mr. Miller encourages you not to be stuck mainly by asking thought provoking questions and sharing stories of individuals who were once stuck on their job. One of the things he mentioned that stuck with me was how he defined: job, vocation, and career. At the end , I was thinking ” wow, I’ve been stuck because of my thinking” . I limited myself on certain job applications and my vision didn’t reflect in some of the jobs I applied for.

I don’t want to share too much because I think you will enjoy this book just as much I did by reading it yourself. If you don’t have time to go to the library , no worries just downioad this awesome FREE app called OVERDRIVE. It’s basically an online library ! just search for this title and you’ll have the option to borrow the book as an e-book or audiobook.

It doesn’t take 100 applications and 20 interviews to get to the next level in life sometimes it just takes a renovation in the mind…