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Wedding season is here! Well, actually weddings are happening all the time so is there really a season? Anyhoo, my husband and I are approaching our 1st year of marriage (WhoooHOOO!!) and I thought it would be great to reflect on our growth from the wedding planning to becoming the Mrs. Randomly the first thing that popped in my mind was the guest list.

I thought this was going to be a piece of cake and for most brides I guess it is; however , being a ‘nice’ person this was hard. Our families lived in separate states so we chose our wedding in the state we live in, which is where my husband family lives. Then there was the list.  A lot of people wanted to come when they first heard about our wedding and I started feeling overwhelmed.

I wanted to invite everyone but the money was limited so what was I supposed to do? I went online and searched for a smart way to tackle the list. I drew 4 columns for an A-list, B-list, C-list, D-list. The A-list included immediate family, people we couldn’t imagine getting married without. The B-list included our aunts & uncles , cousins , best friends. The C-list included co-workers and the D-list were people we didn’t talk to in a while, etc. We already had a number set that we could invite so after creating the list it became easier to mark out names. We sent out invitations mostly to the ones that were likely to attend and sent an invitation to church to make an announcement so people could send gifts. I kept track of who was/wasn’t attending using TheKnot guests template. The beginning was stressful but after having a plan the process became easier.

So if you’re in the middle of planning for your big day and the guest list has you overwhelmed , simply create lists of those close to ones you don’t talk to and narrow it down one step at a time.

 

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Diy wedding dress 

Yayy!! I finally have my diy wedding dress!! Just so we’re on the same page this diy is not a do it yourself but dont intimidate yourself , lol. Let me tell ya weddings are /can be expensive and my vision in life isn’t on the cheap side either! So that being said , one of the exciting moments for a future Mrs is getting that special wedding dress.

I watched bridal shows , picked up on dress lingo and felt like I had it all in the bag except for one thing….money. I started going to different bridal shops and it was overwhelming with beautiful dresses. Even though I didn’t have the money to get the dress I really wanted I knew I couldn’t show that to the consultants , I needed faith and a poker face .

So when they asked for my wedding dress budget I gave a higher number so that I would have more options because I knew the discounted dresses were more of the same style . I also made sure to ask questions while I was in the dress so I could shop elsewhere. Questions like ” what size is this dress?” ” tulle or organza ?” Etc etc

I later found a dress that complemented my slender shape and everything! The consultant thought I was getting the dress . As she walked over with a poster and bell she asked ” so do you say yes to the dress?!” I smiled staring at myself and said “oh no no ” lmbo. I was frustrated because I needed money .

My wedding planner gave me the idea to look into online dresses but also said because my time is winding down it may be a risk. My options were few and I took that chance. I started researching and my grandma looked as well. We had to sift through the scam sites and find one that was reliable, that was when I found preownedweddingdresses.com .

This awesome site worked wonders for me. You can filter by size , silhouette, price , color , you name it and I’m sure they got it. After stalking the site for several days, my grandma found a Maggie sottero dress for $200! I contacted the seller and basically interviewed her for a couple of days ( I have to make sure lol ). I asked for more pictures of different angles, asked about the material of the dress , condition of the dress and everything. Luckily, the lady was patient with me because I knew I asked over a million questions. I finally paid through PayPal and received the dress about a week after . It’s just like the photo , needs a little bit of alteration but it’s beautiful!

So wherever you’re at in life, remember God’s got your back and when you don’t have a logical way to get from point A to point B use your faith .

        Don’t intimidate yourself 

In less than 130 days..

AshleyMarcus-96  In less than 130 days, I will be getting married to my best friend!! A rollercoaster of thoughts run through my head as I not only prepare for our wedding, my journey to dental school , but the next phase in life !  Growing up I was the child that loved playing with Barbie by myself (including dialogue ), wrote journal entries and poetry to express my feelings. Even as an adult, being able to walk into a quiet apartment after experiencing some of the worst college roommates is like living in a complete luxury.  In less than 130 days all of that will change , there will be a permanent adjustment. I’m believing God is going to take our faith to a whole new level, what I call

IMG_0250 “zip line faith”.  In less than 130 days I become one, where his feelings become my second nature and what seemed difficult during the first segment of our relationship will now be hilarious.  In less than 130 days I will receive what’s been promised for me. There is so much in store for all of us but sometimes it takes stepping out of our comfort zone in order to receive.