Don’t Settle

When you’ve been working towards a goal for so long and still have yet to enjoy the results, it can be very frustrating. I get it, I’ve been there and sometimes still there depending on the situation. Speaking up was never one of my favorites. If the crowd believed in one thing I would disagree ..silently and move on with my day . This habit of mine was cool until I got older and am now seeing it from a different angle.

When I was younger , having a relationship with someone was very important to me. I didn’t know how I felt was really a void that I needed filled. I couldn’t imagine myself being married to the guys I liked during that time however, I was able to settle for the moment because I felt special.

I remembered going on a job interview and I felt pretty good about the direction it was going in.  During the interview, they told me what they were willing to pay and that was final. I felt confident about the details of the job but felt kind of shaky in their pay offer. I thought about the location of the job ,the lack of equipment they had in the lab , and figured they didn’t have the money so I started to settle.

For the past couple of months, my husband and I been looking into apartments. As time passed we made a decision and started to move into our unit. Like most apartments , the apartment model will not look exactly like you imagine, so this was old news. However, our apartment looked COMPLETELY different and because I wanted to be humble.. I started to settle.


In relationships, I learned overtime not to settle. I started learning about God’s love and the fact he already had someone for me .

In the job offer, I had a few days to research how to negotiate my salary. I didn’t settle in their final offer, I recognized their need in the company and how I could help satisfy those areas. They gave me exactly what I asked.

With the apartment, my husband and I prayed for favor , and didn’t settle with what they initially gave us. We were able to change into another apartment and pay the same rent quote from the first unit they offered us.

So in everything, recognize your worth and don’t settle for less. You’re a king’s kid šŸ™‚

The Ideal Gentleman

He doesn’t ask for much, just to believe

and whatever I ask I shall receive.

He walks with me and waits as I become transparent

then corrects me with love just like a parent.

Constantly protecting me and wanting what’s best

teaching me his ways through a series of tests.

His wisdom is beyond what I was taught in school

sharing the way he thinks throughout the day gives me fuel.

He opens doors that none can shut, he closes them with grace

always having his best interests with the challenges I may face.

He showers me with compliments saying ‘daughter you are beautiful’

where confidence is the new foundation and to validate is no longer an issue.

He gave his life for me when there was a time I wouldn’t give an hour

now I consistently seek his face so I can witness his power.

People will try to prove him wrong because they don’t understand

how one could love unconditionally and continue to be

a gentleman.




Where’s that disney prince when you need him?


You may see reminders in Walmart, Walgreens, or some other store that starts with a ‘W’.. Perhaps when you turn on the tv there’s commercials and movies to remind you of this day just in case you forgot . Can you take a guess?? It’s Valentine’s day! A day where you express your love to that special person a million times more than the rest of the year and etc etc. I’m not anti V-day because for one my prince and I will be celebrating 7 years together!!! So I’m pretty excited to just maybe go to the movies and out to eat ..keep it simple. However , before my “prince charming ” came and swept me off my feet I always wondered ..


In grade school , I used to envy other little girls that would get gifts from their boyfriends or when the school intercom would interrupt to ask for whoever to come to the office and they would come back with balloons. I wanted that so badly , so I would ask my mom if she could do that for me so I could feel special at school. She didn’t interrupt my class but when I would go home after school I would see some gifts on my bed which made my day. I seeked attention from everywhereĀ : chat rooms , internet dating,” ask your friend if they have a friend”. I was the worst when it came to validating my worth, lol .Ā  My heart was broken plenty of times from guys that didn’t know my full potential and instead of moving on I would constantly try to put a band aid on my wound hoping it would get better. I started paying closer attention to the type I attracted at that time.. they looked different butĀ  had the exact spirit got a little better with the next person I liked but there was still something bad that messed up the equation.


I then decided to pray for God to send someone for me. I wanted my father’s approvalĀ (can’t go wrong if you ask him). After I prayed I left it alone >> my tears, my heartbreaks , and the mind set I had thinking I needed man’s approval.Ā  That was when I met my prince and the rest was history ā™„. I didn’t even think on the fact that God had answered my prayer until a pastor was prophesying to me and acknowledged my conversationĀ I had with God that night. There may be challenging moments like all relationships but the difference is we both go after God which builds our relationship , I get to be myself ..silly and flawed, and our friendship is the best! So I say that to say your Disney prince is coming . You don’t have to change your image like Ariel,Ā  you don’t have to go to war like Mulan before heĀ can seeĀ how special you are , and you don’t have to leave a trace of yourself to give him hints of where to find you like cinderella.

He’s going to come and while you wait seek after God . He knows what’s best for us and he loves when we come to him just like any father would. If you don’t have a date hang out with friends, gain some DIY skills from Pinterest, bake and watch some movies ..I think you got it, beautiful Ā šŸ™‚

thYour Disney prince is on the way..