What is glossophobia? It’s the fear of public speaking and something I hate the most. No matter how hard I avoid speaking , the environment creates a platform that requires everyone to talk . In school, I was the student that would not make eye contact with the teacher. I figured if we made eye contact there was a higher chance of them calling my name. I never liked introducing myself or presenting to a crowd of people. I’m not sure how I dread speaking in front of groups of people, but I was a cheerleader and jazz/tap dancer, go figure.. Maybe it was the fact I felt comfortable performing as a group rather than by myself. Either way, as I continue to grow I notice there is no escape for public speaking. So instead of hiding it’s time to face the music,awkward stares, and everything else public speaking may bring.
I’ve seen Nike’s, Just Do It ,logo for years and would associate it with working out. Stop complaining , put on their clothes , and just do it . Seems simple enough but when I started hearing this same phrase applied to other areas in my life , I ask how?Recently I’ve been getting the same response everywhere including podcasts I’ve listened to but until yesterday I believe I finally have my ‘but how?’ question answered.
According to Think and Grow Rich Chick , she came up with 5 ways for making goals do-able , so I’ll just paraphrase what I’ve learned.
- Goal setting requires a deadline and commitment
-Make sure your goals aren’t wishes . Create realistic deadlines
- Believe it’s possible!
– Eliminate any doubts that may enter your mind
- Find your ‘rabbit’
– Think & Grow Chick used the example of track and field when the person running the fastest (rabbit) is closely followed by the 2nd place runner. The ‘rabbit’ is the one setting the trend.
-Whatever is your goal there is someone that already achieved it so instead of being jealous take note of what they do . Being consistent is key!
- Find Puzzle pieces
– Break down your goal to 5-10 things and find out what it takes for each puzzle piece
-Choose what you can work on at the moment and continue everyday
“We would like to bring you on board with our company! Will you accept our offer?” My moment had finally come ! 100 applications & 20 interviews later.. resulted in a job offer ! I was excited and thankful for God’s blessing ,oh how I waited for this transition , but somehow I needed time to reflect.
I remembered when God promised to take me from my night job to place me elsewhere . The following day as I took my 15 min break I saw a beautiful rainbow that was confirmation for me. I was excited and wrote my 2 week notice … a YEAR ahead of time! I saved it to my computer , waiting on my golden willy wonka ticket for better opportunity. So, the moment had presented itself and I’m in awe. No longer having to get off work wee hours of the morning, taking 15 min breaks to refresh my mind from the workload by playing Lumosity on my phone, and being under strict management. I was accustomed to everything and as much as I wasn’t fond of my love-hate relationship with the lab I started feeling like I was going to miss the routine of things.
I learned a lot during those 4 years (eekk!) especially about God’s promise. He protected me from not getting fired , provided financially , and kept his promise . I was nervous about God answering my prayers but I realized in order to fulfill the vision he has for me I needed to press forward. Maybe its not a job you’re seeking but you’re praying and asking for help. God hears your every detail and when he answers he won’t leave anything out because he’s that awesome. It’s true you may not get your prayer answered the next day but as you mature you’ll notice how God is leading you to something beyond your imagination. I’m starting to learn God is in control and I need to obtain more of his character before I become a dentist. A part of being more like him requires breaking up with something even if its hard work.
It’s true. It’s getting close to a year of me applying to jobs. I’ve applied to over 100 + job applications and had about 20 interviews! Who does that? Well, this girl. Don’t be like this girl!
I knew after receiving my DAT scores and the talks I had with dental schools I wasn’t free from my job. I couldn’t quit because my bills and future always reminded me of the relationship we shared. I couldn’t go back to school to retake classes , at least not yet , so I became focused on getting a job with higher pay and flexible for school.
I applied for everything I thought I would qualify for! I knew some of the best positions were posted early in the morning and I knew companies usually request for interviews Tuesday-Thursday. I had all kinds of interviews. I started realizing rather quickly I didn’t put much thought in applying . For example, I had an interview to basically test water including sewage ..SEWAGE!! yuck ! Another interview I had was for a lab. The lady explained her role and how they used animals to test medical devices , like pace makers. As she went on she then mentioned how they don’t go on lunch sometimes depending on the case
This is where this awesome book called 40 Days to the work you love , by Dan Miller changed my thoughts as well as my actions.
Mr. Miller encourages you not to be stuck mainly by asking thought provoking questions and sharing stories of individuals who were once stuck on their job. One of the things he mentioned that stuck with me was how he defined: job, vocation, and career. At the end , I was thinking ” wow, I’ve been stuck because of my thinking” . I limited myself on certain job applications and my vision didn’t reflect in some of the jobs I applied for.
I don’t want to share too much because I think you will enjoy this book just as much I did by reading it yourself. If you don’t have time to go to the library , no worries just downioad this awesome FREE app called OVERDRIVE. It’s basically an online library ! just search for this title and you’ll have the option to borrow the book as an e-book or audiobook.
It doesn’t take 100 applications and 20 interviews to get to the next level in life sometimes it just takes a renovation in the mind…
So I think it’s safe to say we’ve all been in this place before .. where we’re saying “Ooh! Ooh! pick me ! pick me !” or at least our actions demonstrated it. Maybe in your younger days you tried flagging down your teacher so you could give the correct answer or maybe it was when you were in P.E class and you didn’t want to get picked last. Well that’s the season I’m in now with job employment ….
I’ve applied to over 100+ jobs , received about 20 interviews in a year timeframe, talk about EXHAUSTING! My actions are definitely saying “Hey pick me!!” but instead its like having a teacher overlook me on purpose or the P.E teacher skip over me and pick the students that’s around me . I can honestly say I’ve never been the type to give up easily. I tried out for the cheerleading team for 3 years before I got accepted , in college years I struggled financially . Reflecting on moments like those taught me there are more ways to reach your blessing once you think outside the box. Now back to the show:::
I watched how people around me got blessed with jobs, my pastor encouraging me every week to believe in faith, but my results still the same. I started questioning myself and feeling guilty after the interviews I had because I would basically say how I am going to become a dentist . However, I can’t take all the credit..I think God is up to something. My intention with my current job was never to stay as long as I had and my prayer after every interview ” May the best candidate get the position, you know my purpose more than I know myself” . <-Well , I know he will surely answer prayers , that’s a definite lol ! But seriously, a lot of the jobs I applied for , in my mind I figured I would be able to apply some of it towards my overall goal . Interesting, because Isaiah 55:8-9 states “for my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are your ways my ways”. It’s easy to plan a goal but sometimes its not a strategic plan and we need help especially myself! I have a vision board and the jobs I applied for are nowhere near the board, I tell my fiancé I would like to get into dental school by a certain time so how does this all come together?
By God’s grace. I read so many stories of successful people quitting their jobs to pursue their dreams and watched my peers successfully get new positions. I’ve done everything in my being to change my status but God has the blueprint . Once we get to a point where its exhausting that’s when God steps in and says ” That’s good now let me take it from here” Maybe I didn’t get that full time job because God knows it would be a delay in where I need to be .. To be honest this season is like an interview or ‘prove it to me’ with God. Everything I’ve mentioned in the interviews are being tested in these trial periods.He’s been building my character through interviews, interacting with different personalities, budgeting, being dependable, trustworthy, and etc in order to be that dentist I dream about.
So if you are in my shoes now please know you are not being overlooked and what God has in store is bigger than what we can imagine. Stay determined because we’re going to be picked soon!
One of the things I hear about dental school is time management. Time is essential when it comes to studying , spending time with family , and everything else. I try to manage my time well including learning how to be efficient. So, one of my struggles is SWEETS ( part of my inspiration to my blog name, IntrovertedFillings )! I love sweets , like one of my favorite channels is Food Network where I watch Cupcake Wars and Cuttthroat Kitchen . Thing is , I don’t make time to create new food ( picky eater ) and I want to learn new things …just as long as I’m not in the kitchen for hours or burning the kitchen :-/. One of my favorite sites I like to go on for inspiration would be Pinterest. From exercises to diy arts & crafts , its amazing especially when it comes to finding quick recipes. Last night, I decided to try “biscoff cake in a mug” ..
This isn’t the actual one I made but just wanted to give you a visual. It tasted great and it only took a few minutes to prepare . The only thing is I wish I had some type of frosting or something but no time was wasted nor did I have a lot of dishes to wash whoo hoo!! Today I’m trying peach cobbler using cake mix and I hope the results are as good as the pictures they have on pinterest lol . Well, keep me in prayer when it comes to cooking/baking and for my taste buds to stop being judgmental to certain types of foods :-/. Take care !
“Why do you want to become a dentist?” Honestly, when I struggled academically in college , being nervous speaking in front of people, and other obstacles I ask myself the same thing. As I tried to research other careers I found that it was a waste of time because my passion was in dentistry. Being in a single parent home where finances were limited, going to the dentist wasn’t a priority nor were we educated on how important it was to maintain healthy teeth and gums. I had a lot of insecurities growing up and it eventually affected the way I smiled. I was able to get braces for a short period but due to finances I had to get them off sooner than expected. One day my mom and I went to a big dental clinic where hundreds of us stood in line waiting to be examined by health professionals including dentists. Hours later , they announced “NO MORE PATIENTS!” This was because there wasn’t enough dentists. After those experiences , it motivated me to learn more about dentistry and how I can make a difference. As I continue to volunteer and gain insight in the dental arena , I learn there are hundreds of people like me. By God’s will , my desire is to educate people on the importance of having a healthy mouth and how it affects their overall health. Also , to help build one’s confidence by improving their smile . This won’t be easy but I’m determined to help someone through my journey .