Hearing His Voice

You ever been around people that just brag about their adventure and you just want to experience it for yourself? Well, this was me and the year 2015 was definitely an experience to remember. For a couple of years (at least it felt that way) I was desiring to have another type of experience with God. I read about him, sung about him , prayed to him , and felt I needed more. I wanted to hear his voice . I knew God had different ways of getting my attention but I wanted to hear him for myself.
I prayed and prayed ..nothing happened. I turned off all of my distractions..nothing happened. I even went on a complete fast ..and NOTHING HAPPENED! That season was very frustrating ! It’s like calling a restaurant to make an order and no one is picking up the phone so you’re questioning if you even have the right number, lol. I talked with my aunt and her response was to keep waiting . So one fun fact about me is that I’m an introvert ( I wouldn’t say I’m quiet 100% )but my mind stays busy like NYC traffic, which I guess made it hard to hear God.
One day in January 2015, the weather was at its coldest and living in the south with snow was the motivation I needed to stay in from work. I had my t.v off , just finished a meal , and started washing dishes. As I washed the dishes in complete silence it was at that moment I heard his voice. I always imagined I would hear a loud , thunder, manly voice and I’m glad that didn’t happen because I probably would of ran out of my apartment,lol.
The best way I could describe how he sounded to me is similar to my thoughts. A confident, strong sounding thought if that make any sense. If you could imagine hearing your parents speak to you but in your voice , that’s what it was . I knew it was him because I know how I think and talk. He said ” hello daughter , it’s great to hear from you .” My eyes stretched and I felt overwhelmed with joy. The experience I waited so long for finally came and the anticipation was worth every minute. 

Glossophobia

What is glossophobia? It’s the fear of public speaking and something I hate the most.  No matter how hard I avoid speaking , the environment creates a platform that requires everyone to talk . In school, I was the student that would not make eye contact with the teacher. I figured if we made eye contact there was a higher chance of them calling my name. I never liked introducing myself  or presenting to a crowd of people. I’m not sure how I dread speaking in front of groups of people, but I was a cheerleader and jazz/tap dancer, go figure.. Maybe it was the fact I felt comfortable performing as a group rather than by myself. Either way, as I continue to grow I notice there is no escape for public speaking. So instead of hiding it’s time to face the music,awkward stares, and everything else public speaking may bring.

Practice, practice, practice. I remembered practicing my capstone presentation with my teacher after her office hours and it was worth every minute! I was scared because I was not only presenting to my colleagues but to teachers and I had no idea what they were going to ask. My teacher helped me as far as my posture, making eye contact, and not being wordy in my power point. The time spent in practicing  those minor details helped me in a major way the next day when I presented my research.
Engage with the audience. Remember when I said I felt comfortable performing as a group rather than by myself? Speaking in front of people is like a big performance so it’s important to get everyone involved to avoid feeling awkward. I like asking questions to not only take the spotlight off myself but it’s a way get everyone engaged.
Picture everyone_____. Ok I’m not sure about this one lol. People would say if I pictured everyone in the room in underwear or something I would feel at ease. Actually I think it would make me look silly laughing in front of everyone like I’m on medication, no thanks. I heard this works but honestly I just like to get through the speaking so I can hurry and sit down.
Don’t look at everyone in the face. I look for that one person I’m comfortable with and pretend they are the only ones in the room. Focusing on one person vs the entire room help me control how fast to talk and keep my nerves in check. When I was a little girl I had to recite my Christmas speech and I would not look at anyone in the face! Instead I randomly stared at the big church hats, people teeth, and the big clock that hung in the back of the church LOL.
I thought my fear of public speaking would have disappeared as I got older, instead it got smaller which is progress! If you’re like me I’m here to say you’re doing great!  Always remember there’s a platform waiting to hear your voice to gain insight, stay encouraged, and be inspired.
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For The Selective Palate

 

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I’m not sure what brought me to this path of being a picky eater. I could say money was a factor or the fact my mom worked long hours. Truth was, the last thing on her mind was to come home to cook a Lebanese Thanksgiving meal. Even if she did cook like that, I already made my mind up that if it’s not the texture then it’s the presentation of food that will make me cringe. Also, the fact I had people that supported my picky outlook on food rather than push me to try new things.  Why change when you already know what’s best for you, right? Well this all started to change once I got married. For my husband’s birthdays he likes to try new dishes and for some reason I started having the same craving to try new things as well. Rocky start but eventually I became open to new possibilities.

This continued in the workplace as well. My business trip to New York interrupted my comfort level greatly especially with food. We went to restaurants I would probably pass by in order to get some pizza and was served beverages that reminded me I was not in the south.  I did have a chance to visit a French restaurant and for the first time I tried macaroons!  Who would have guessed this picky person would one day open up to opportunities and try something better than the ‘norm’?

The way I am with food is sometimes translated in my relationship with God. I’m very persistent (okay, stubborn at times) and I like to have things done a certain way because that’s what I’m used to. However, I’m also learning that with God his way is better and part of understanding his way requires faith. It’s not easy. It’s like having a plate of some of the nastiest vegetables and your parents saying ,”Eat it, it’s good for you”.  Eventually , your taste changes and you become sensitive to what you eat and open to new dishes. Once you ( including me ) realize God’s hand in your life , you’ll become sensitive and willing to submit to his path.  So for the selective palate, I dare you to go out and explore not only food but God’s will for your life 🙂image1 (2)

The Power of Saying “NO!”

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If every answer to a question was a ‘yes’ I wonder what would life be like? Even though there’s  glamour in saying yes , there’s definitely power in a no.  ‘No’ will direct you on the right path.  I can’t tell you how many times I was rejected in my relationship quests when I was younger but let’s just say I was persistent, lol. The same determination I had stuck with me when I started applying for jobs (100 applications & 20 interviews later.. ) . The experiences were frustrating yet it somehow gave me fuel to keep pushing myself to the point I had to stop and evaluate what was going on.  Chasing guys did not look pretty so when I finally gained a better understanding of who God created me to be that’s when I became friends with my now husband. After applying to a million jobs and receiving no’s , it directed me on the path I’m on now.

‘No’ is good for your well-being. Making promises to everyone can be stressful and overwhelming. When you finally accept the fact that you can’t please everyone it feels like a sigh of relief. Creating the guest list for my wedding was very stressful at first. I had so many people in mind I pictured at the wedding but it was conflicting with the actual cost. I looked up a great method on how to handle the guest list and it relieved my stress tremendously!

‘No’ helps you think clearer . Honestly , saying no right away is not my first response. There’s so much power in our words but to mentally process what we’re asked first is power all on its on. How many times did we agree to something without thinking through the question first? When I submitted my DAT (Dental Admission Test) scores , the schools sent me emails immediately after. They knew my character but wanted me to push more academically. The schools said ‘no, not now’ ,which was great because it allowed me think clearer on what I wanted .

To hear the word ‘no’ can bring so much emotions , good and bad, depending on how you receive it.  I think God created that word with us in mind. He wants to protect us, keep us in perfect health, and mature our thinking . So the next time you’re rejected be joyful because something great is on your way!

 

Live as an adult& think like a child

You ever sat at a bench and people-watched? Random yet interesting especially children. They’re funny, straight to the point, full of energy, and believe almost anything. As a child I believed in a lot even if it didn’t make logical sense , you had my support 100%. For instance , how did Santa get into my house without a chimney or a key? I wasn’t sure but I knew he came because I had half eaten cookies to prove it lol.

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It’s something about children I truly enjoy. They were the inspiration behind my career decision in second grade and even now as a children’s church teacher I admire them at times. I appreciate how children are wowed at the simplest things .They’re ex- friends then best friends in the same hour, you may have to talk to them once…twice…or a million and yet it’s easier to be yourself to them than an adult sometimes.

One place I can count on where everyone has a childlike mentality is Disney World. The atmosphere is so friendly and carefree . I know the times I’ve gone I think I actually felt like it was a part of my happily ever after.. like I didn’t have go back to work the following week.l8uobo-l8uoa1mickeyandminniemouse I live for these kind of moments. Moments of random joy , peace, forgiveness,  and faith. As our bodies mature into adults I wonder what shifts our thinking ? Life’s lessons are taught when we’re in our humblest state, when we’re able to listen and follow direction. I think children are the best teachers because they don’t understand everything and its okay.. what a great characteristic!

While it’s the season to take on responsibilities as adults there are seasons for us to enjoy life with a childlike way of thinking. Things will pop up in life where it doesn’t make sense and it’s okay God’s got it all figured out. There are times you’ll have to forgive others and even though you may not be friends , it’s okay just move on . It’s time to embrace the silly , carefree moments and enjoy life as a kid :-)!IMG_1124

Just Do It but how?

I’ve seen Nike’s, Just Do It ,logo for years and would associate it with working out. Stop complaining , put on their clothes , and just do it . Seems simple enough but when I started hearing this same phrase applied to other areas in my life , I ask how?nike_just_do_it_wallpaper_smoke___paintball_effect_by_ryanr08-d4h54qcRecently I’ve been getting the same response everywhere including podcasts I’ve listened to but until yesterday I believe I finally have my ‘but how?’ question answered.

According to Think and Grow Rich Chick , she came up with 5 ways for making goals do-able , so I’ll just paraphrase what I’ve learned.

  • Goal setting requires a deadline and commitment

-Make sure your goals aren’t wishes . Create realistic deadlines

  • Believe it’s possible!

– Eliminate any doubts that may enter your mind

  • Find your ‘rabbit’

– Think & Grow Chick used the example of track and field when the person running the fastest (rabbit) is closely followed by the 2nd place runner. The ‘rabbit’ is the one setting the trend.

-Whatever is your goal there is someone that already achieved it so instead of being jealous take note of what they do . Being consistent is key!

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  • Find Puzzle pieces

– Break down your goal to 5-10 things and find out what it takes for each puzzle piece

-Choose what you can work on at the moment and continue everyday

 

 

100 applications & 20 interviews later..

It’s true. It’s getting close to a year of me applying to jobs. I’ve applied to over 100 + job applications and had about 20 interviews! Who does that? Well, this girl. Don’t be like this girl!

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I knew after receiving my DAT scores and the talks I had with dental schools I wasn’t free from my job. I couldn’t quit because my bills and future always reminded me of the relationship we shared. I couldn’t go back to school to retake classes , at least not yet , so I became focused on getting a job with higher pay and flexible for school.

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I applied for everything I thought I would qualify for! I knew some of the best positions were posted early in the morning and I knew companies usually request for  interviews Tuesday-Thursday. I had all kinds of interviews. I started realizing rather quickly I didn’t put much thought in applying . For example, I had an interview to basically test water including sewage ..SEWAGE!! yuck ! Another interview I had was for a lab. The lady explained her role and how they used animals to test medical devices , like pace makers. As she went on she then mentioned how they don’t go on lunch sometimes depending on the case

 

This is where this awesome book called 40 Days to the work you love , by Dan Miller changed my thoughts as well as my actions.

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Mr. Miller encourages you not to be stuck mainly by asking thought provoking questions and sharing stories of individuals who were once stuck on their job. One of the things he mentioned that stuck with me was how he defined: job, vocation, and career. At the end , I was thinking ” wow, I’ve been stuck because of my thinking” . I limited myself on certain job applications and my vision didn’t reflect in some of the jobs I applied for.

I don’t want to share too much because I think you will enjoy this book just as much I did by reading it yourself. If you don’t have time to go to the library , no worries just downioad this awesome FREE app called OVERDRIVE. It’s basically an online library ! just search for this title and you’ll have the option to borrow the book as an e-book or audiobook.

It doesn’t take 100 applications and 20 interviews to get to the next level in life sometimes it just takes a renovation in the mind…

Are you in your element?

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In certain cultures you'll find five essential elements, while others may claim four, 
whichever is the case, every element serves its purpose. One element's purpose may be 
to create and destroy while another is to replenish. Each understands its role
and operate in their full ability. Now let's translate this to everyday life>>
Do you recognize your purpose in someone's life? 
For myself, I recognize that I bring joy to others. I have a pretty upbeat 
attitude , smile all the time ,"Minnie Mouse" voice , and a sense of humor that 
makes people laugh even when I'm serious. I'm sure as time pass I will be able 
to recognize other areas God will allow me to excel in while helping others.
After recognizing my purpose I began observing the people in my life and what roles 
 they served. 
th50XA53E3This was/still not an easy process for me but it becomes easier over 
time thanks to God! I was once very naïve with my heart on my sleeve,but 
over time my observation skills upgraded and I started noticing patterns of behavior
that consistently took advantage of me. I started distancing myself from certain people
along with deleting contacts from my phone, yayyy :-) , lol ! Now with my smaller 
circle I have individuals for spiritual advice, dentistry, marriage, and etc. 
 Prov 15:22 says "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed". 
It's very important to know the type of people you have in your ear and what you can 
offer as well. 

Let's operate in our elements , beautifuls!

Diy wedding dress 

Yayy!! I finally have my diy wedding dress!! Just so we’re on the same page this diy is not a do it yourself but dont intimidate yourself , lol. Let me tell ya weddings are /can be expensive and my vision in life isn’t on the cheap side either! So that being said , one of the exciting moments for a future Mrs is getting that special wedding dress.

I watched bridal shows , picked up on dress lingo and felt like I had it all in the bag except for one thing….money. I started going to different bridal shops and it was overwhelming with beautiful dresses. Even though I didn’t have the money to get the dress I really wanted I knew I couldn’t show that to the consultants , I needed faith and a poker face .

So when they asked for my wedding dress budget I gave a higher number so that I would have more options because I knew the discounted dresses were more of the same style . I also made sure to ask questions while I was in the dress so I could shop elsewhere. Questions like ” what size is this dress?” ” tulle or organza ?” Etc etc

I later found a dress that complemented my slender shape and everything! The consultant thought I was getting the dress . As she walked over with a poster and bell she asked ” so do you say yes to the dress?!” I smiled staring at myself and said “oh no no ” lmbo. I was frustrated because I needed money .

My wedding planner gave me the idea to look into online dresses but also said because my time is winding down it may be a risk. My options were few and I took that chance. I started researching and my grandma looked as well. We had to sift through the scam sites and find one that was reliable, that was when I found preownedweddingdresses.com .

This awesome site worked wonders for me. You can filter by size , silhouette, price , color , you name it and I’m sure they got it. After stalking the site for several days, my grandma found a Maggie sottero dress for $200! I contacted the seller and basically interviewed her for a couple of days ( I have to make sure lol ). I asked for more pictures of different angles, asked about the material of the dress , condition of the dress and everything. Luckily, the lady was patient with me because I knew I asked over a million questions. I finally paid through PayPal and received the dress about a week after . It’s just like the photo , needs a little bit of alteration but it’s beautiful!

So wherever you’re at in life, remember God’s got your back and when you don’t have a logical way to get from point A to point B use your faith .

        Don’t intimidate yourself 

Dental Office matchmaker

Once the thought formed in my mind creating the vision then traveled to my mouth to say “I want to become a dentist” , I knew from that point I would be in for a treat.  You have to prove how serious you are in becoming a dentist through your test scores, grades,  involvement throughout the community including shadowing dentists.

Shadowing/observing dentists not only shows how committed you are in the dental field but it helps in knowing more about yourself  and if you could really see yourself in that career. I actually enjoy shadowing , it allows me to observe how dentists interact with patients of all types of personalities . I get better insight on some of the dental procedures, when dentists recommend surgery or some kind of procedure its not to get your $$….

thM39E83HSIts actually because they see things we’re not able to see with our own eyes . On the other hand , I went to some dental offices to shadow and I felt like I was in the way.

thZ95ZY5G3This is how I feel sometimes when I arrive in offices where there’s about twenty dental assistants and hygienists . Something simple as observing how dental offices are managed can be overwhelming at times . Constantly saying excuse me , asking patients for permission to observe their procedure , dental staff all of sudden  invisible (in the ’employees only’ break room) , and you’re left standing like a lost child at an airport . Can’t find the dentist because they are running from room to room and closes their office door to make certain you don’t interrupt their moment of silence..  did I mention how much I like shadowing?

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It was not until I found my dental office match made in heaven ! It was a pediatric office and from experience with other kid dental offices this one was perfect in my eyes. The dentist kept the same amount of energy throughout speaking with her staff , children, and their parents.It was a decent number for the dental staff but I didn’t feel out of place or didn’t belong , it was just peaceful. I love being hands on so I appreciated the invitation to assist in keeping some of the children calm . I think if more dental offices had this type of atmosphere and not mayhem maybe the number of those that fear dentists would be less to none :-).